Need help becoming abstinent?

 

Sex is a hard thing to get rid of and also a difficult situation to say no to because it is a natural instinct and everyone wants to do it. Although we all want to do it, it is possible to say no. There are ways to be abstinent and other things to do in a relationship besides having sex. Here are some easy ways to become, and help stay abstinent:

 

1. Commit to be abstinent: You will have to want to be abstinent and know that you are doing this to better yourself.

 

2. Educate yourself on the side effects of pre-marital sex and absitinence. That will help give initiative to want to become abstinent.

 

3. Acknowledge yourself: Praise yourself for practicing self-control. It is hard to go against natural instinct, but you can do it!

 

4. Date people who respect your choice: Dating people who want to have sex will make it so much harder for you to not have sex, thought it does take two to tango. Without the pressures and offerings of sex, it will be easy to be abstinent.

 

5. Stop yourself while you still can: Certain actions such as kissing and cuddling can lead to sex very quickly. If you feel like things are leading to sex, then stop while it is still easy to say stop. The further it goes, the harder it is to say no.

 

6. Remember the risks: Remember all of the negative effects and outcomes of having pre-marital sex. Do you want any of those things to happen to you?

 

7. It's not for FOREVER!: Just remember, you aren't chosing to become abstinent for your entire life. It is only until you get married. Although it might seem like a long time from now until you get married, it's not. Think of how fast time has already gone by. Marriage will come soon.